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  也需被愛的雙親!絕對值得你花一分鐘看...                                                   
                                                                                           
  一直以為父母也應該跟我們一樣能適應這個變化的世界,新的科技、新的資訊,新的理財觀…        
                                                                                           
  直到最近幾年才知道他們追的蠻辛苦的,遙控器太多太複雜、聽不懂的專業術語、完全陌生的理財工 
  具…                                                                                      
                                                                                           
  直到最近幾年才知道怕我們不耐煩,父母偶爾忍住了想說的話,想做的事…                        
  這則文章的確是篇好文章…                                                                  
                                                                                           
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  如果沒有這次遠遊,                                                                       
                                                                                           
  遲鈍的我也不會知道                                                                       
                                                                                           
  一向熱心打點照顧我們子女無微不至的父母,                                                 
                                                                                           
  退休十幾年的老爸,                                                                       
                                                                                           
  竟衰老得如此快速。                                                                       
                                                                                           
  我們五姊妹只湊足了三個,決定陪爸媽去新加坡玩。                                           
                                                                                           
  在去程的飛機上,老爸四小時都不願如廁,                                                   
                                                                                           
  任憑我們好說歹說,他依然老僧入定,不肯起身。                                             
                                                                                           
  在每一站觀光區,他也是非到萬不得已才進男廁。                                             
                                                                                           
  有次我觀察到他小解很久才出來,看不到熟悉親人身影,                                       
                                                                                           
  先是向東搜尋,繼而向西眺望,                                                             
                                                                                           
  即使在這節骨眼,他也不願放聲大喊大叫,                                                   
                                                                                           
  讓我們子女沒有顏面,                                                                     
                                                                                           
  站在陌生人群中,一副茫然失魂的樣子,                                                     
                                                                                           
  安靜、耐心等子女們的出現,                                                               
                                                                                           
  我終於瞭解他出門在外不願如廁的原因。                                                     
                                                                                           
                                                                                           
  以前不解事的小兒子常笑他八十幾歲的外婆,                                                 
                                                                                           
  連鈕釦都不會扣,真慢!真笨!                                                             
                                                                                           
  好簡單的一件事,為什麼老人家們就是做不好?                                               
                                                                                           
  我們還未經歷到,當然難以理解,                                                           
                                                                                           
  年紀大了,有時候手腳會不由自主、不聽使喚,                                               
                                                                                           
  我以為老爸和婆婆之間還有一大段差距,                                                     
                                                                                           
  誰知他也不知不覺走到這個階段了。                                                         
                                                                                           
  往後行程我根本無心玩賞,                                                                 
                                                                                           
  只要看到老爸表情稍有異樣,                                                               
                                                                                           
  便好說歹說強行押解他到男廁,                                                             
                                                                                           
  自己則只好守在男廁外頭,起初老爸感到萬分不自在,                                         
                                                                                           
  後來也就漸漸習慣了。                                                                     
                                                                                           
  回程飛機上,我陪老爸去洗手間,                                                           
                                                                                           
  他忽然低聲對我說:「其實我不會鎖機上廁所的門。」                                         
                                                                                           
  我拍拍他肩膀,告訴他:「沒關係。」                                                       
                                                                                           
  心裡卻翻湧出一陣心酸。                                                                   
                                                                                           
  心裡很想告訴同行的妹妹,                                                                 
                                                                                           
  下次出遊,把各自的老公也帶來,                                                           
                                                                                           
  也可以多盡一份心,                                                                       
                                                                                           
  也很想告訴沒有同來的么妹,錢財日後都賺得回來,                                           
                                                                                           
  唯有父母健在安康,又能帶著遠遊,                                                         
                                                                                           
  這才是為人子最大的福份;                                                                 
                                                                                           
  想告訴老爸,                                                                             
                                                                                           
  如廁問題解決了,我們下次可以飛到更遠的地方去旅行。                                       
                                                                                           
                                                                                           
  一趟旅行帶給了我許多感觸,                                                               
                                                                                           
  也讓再度離開家、身在火車上的我不禁滴下眼淚....                                           
                                                                                           
  或許是自己太多愁善感,                                                                   
                                                                                           
  也或許擔心自己的父母狀況,                                                               
                                                                                           
  只是自己一直沒發覺,                                                                     
                                                                                           
  才驚覺原來老爸老媽也變老了,變脆弱了                                                     
                                                                                           
  不再是以前那「強壯的臂膀」、「溫暖的避風港」,                                           
                                                                                           
  原來一直幫我扛著頭上那片天的巨人,                                                       
                                                                                           
  人也會變老....                                                                           
                                                                                           
                                                                                           
                                                                                           
  余光中的一段詩........                                                                   
                                                                                           
  母難日                                                                                   
                                                                                           
  今生今世                                                                                 
                                                                                           
  我最忘情的哭聲有兩次                                                                     
                                                                                           
  一次在我生命的開始                                                                       
                                                                                           
  一次在妳生命的告終                                                                       
                                                                                           
  第一次我不會記得是聽妳說的                                                               
                                                                                           
  第二次妳不會曉得我說也沒用                                                               
                                                                                           
  但兩次哭聲的中間啊                    


 


                                                    
                              

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